5 Things to Tell Your Officiant Before the Wedding Day
As wedding planners, we know that the magic is in the details—and some of the smallest moments can make the biggest difference, especially during your ceremony. Your officiant plays a crucial role in setting the tone, keeping things flowing, and guiding your guests through the experience. But unless they know what you need ahead of time, things can fall through the cracks.
That’s why we’re sharing 5 important things to communicate with your officiant before the big day. Whether you're getting married in Virginia, D.C., Maryland, or anywhere in the DMV, these tips will help ensure a smooth, seamless ceremony—with no awkward hiccups and picture-perfect memories.
Ask Them to Make a "Phone-Free" Announcement
Before the processional begins, ask your officiant to kindly remind guests to put away their phones and be present. You can even build in a short moment during the ceremony when guests are invited to take one quick photo—then tuck their phones away again.
✨ Why It Matters: You’ll avoid a sea of raised phones blocking
the photographer’s view of your walk down the aisle. And trust us—your professional
photos will thank you.
Rehearse with Just the Two of You (Before the Rehearsal!)
A mini run-through with your officiant—without your full bridal party present—can go a long way. Whether it’s via Zoom or in person, practicing the timing, cues, and pacing ahead of the full rehearsal helps everything run smoother when the big group gets involved.
✨ Why It Matters: It gives you both a chance to ask questions, review transitions,
and eliminate nerves—before the full wedding party arrives.
Have Them Step Away After the Kiss
Once you’ve said your vows and sealed it with a kiss, remind your officiant to gracefully step to the side. It’s a simple move, but one that gives your photographer a clean, uninterrupted shot of that iconic moment.
✨ Why It Matters: You love your officiant—but you probably don’t want
them in every photo of your first kiss.
Assign Post-Ceremony Directions
Have your officiant announce what happens next immediately after you’re pronounced married. Whether it’s heading to cocktail hour, group photos, or a receiving line, guests appreciate a little guidance—and your planner will thank you, too.
✨ Why It Matters: It avoids the post-ceremony confusion where guests
don’t know where to go or what’s next.
Review What Happens with the Marriage License
The ceremony may be over—but the paperwork still matters. Go over where the marriage license is, who’s signing it, and when it needs to be returned. Don’t leave this part to chance.
✨ Why It Matters: There’s nothing worse than scrambling to sign legal documents
during the reception when you should be celebrating.
Final Thoughts: Don’t Assume—Communicate
Even the most experienced officiants appreciate a little direction. The more you communicate ahead of time, the smoother things will go—and the more relaxed you’ll feel walking into your ceremony.
At J.J. Ash Events & Designs, we support couples every step of the way, from rehearsal logistics to wedding day coordination. If you’re looking for planning services in Virginia, D.C., or Maryland, we’re here to make your wedding day feel effortless and unforgettable.
